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Merry Christmas…

December 20th, 2017 · 13 Comments · Daily

…to the employee at Moe’s who talked me into putting rice on my burrito…to my daughter’s history teacher who was shot while running in the woods, yet managed to make it back to the high school to help protect the kids…to all people who dedicate themselves to making the world a better place…to the woman at the coffee dump who bought hot chocolate for a young homeless man…to the makeup guy at Sephora who patiently answered 493 questions about my vanishing eyebrows…to my friends who forgive my forgetfulness as well as my shameless use of alliteration…to Judge Derrick Watson and Judge Theodore D. Chuang…to the band parents who are just as “Hell Yeah!” as I am…to my family for seeing past my weirditude about crowds and seating arrangements and notebooks and sleepiness…to Maxine Waters and to John McCain…to the writers and the poets and the artists and the misfits and the activists…to you.


Oh, 2017. Last night Harper said something like, “2016 really sucked, but it feels like 2017 was even worse.” Sure, this comes from a kid who has her own bedroom and the house is warm when it’s cold outside and we always have Cool Ranch Doritos. BUT, it’s also the kid who knows that not everyone from Mexico, Iran, Iraq, Libya, Syria, Somalia, Sudan, or Yemen is itching to kill Americans.

We’ve had many talks about how the world shouldn’t be so Us and Them. Reminder: Just because I’m anti-NRA doesn’t mean I’m against responsible gun ownership. Just because I’m a (bleeding heart) liberal doesn’t mean I’m not a Christian or that I’m pro-abortion. (Pro-abortion. I know. What a horrible label that is.) Just because I support the Black Lives Matter movement doesn’t mean that I don’t support the police. I have friends and family members on both sides of all fences and although we may disagree on so many things, I wouldn’t hesitate to take them soup or tea if they needed or wanted it.


I just finished reading Braving the Wilderness and I *never* read books like Braving the Wilderness, but maybe I should because YES ON BRAVING THE WILDERNESS. Brené Brown has poked me in the eyes and given me some really important things to incorporate.

Because of Braving the Wilderness along with The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and also because I stumbled and low self-esteemrolled my way through 2017, my word for 2018 is Connect. My goals for 2018? Keep writing and stop dehumanizing. Work on my stomach, my head, and my falling asleep in weird places. Listen. Love. Connect.

“We’re all going to die, all of us. What a circus! That alone should make us love each other, but it doesn’t. We are terrorized and flattened by life’s trivialities; we are eaten up by nothing.” -Bukowski


These three people (a man and two of his daughters, along with one other daughter whose headstone has been removed) are buried in a subdivision near the middle school. I love that even though their farm is now a subdivision, they are still there.

And I’m still here and you’re still here and I hope your holidays sparkle and fizz.


(The girls and I visited my sister for her 50th birthday last weekend. This photo was taken shortly after I jumped out of the car and ran into a stranger’s front yard to hug their gigantic snowmen. Never send away the weasel.)


13 responses so far ↓

  • 1 fluidpudding // Dec 20, 2017 at 10:10 pm

    Testing for Russian Hooker Wall of Invisibility

  • 2 Jeff // Dec 20, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Testing, testing.

  • 3 Nancy R // Dec 20, 2017 at 10:24 pm

    Merry Christmas to you and yours!

  • 4 Carroll McNeill // Dec 20, 2017 at 11:01 pm

    Am I un-banned now?

  • 5 Connie Wantlans // Dec 20, 2017 at 11:30 pm

    I love reading your blog, Angela. Have a lovely holiday with family and friends. Let’s just expect that 2018 IS going to be a better year for all!

    ???? Connie Wantland

  • 6 Connie Wantlans // Dec 20, 2017 at 11:31 pm

    I love reading your blog, Angela. Have a lovely holiday with family and friends. Let’s just expect that 2018 IS going to be a better year for all!

    ???? Connie Wantland

  • 7 blackbird // Dec 21, 2017 at 8:18 am

    Merry and Happy, my friend!

  • 8 Crazy Mom! // Dec 21, 2017 at 10:50 am

    Happy happy
    Merry merry!

    And blessings to all….

  • 9 Jill Finger // Dec 22, 2017 at 5:44 am

    Merry Christmas to you and your family. You’ve given me so much to think about/stew over this year. Keep up the good work and please know you’re loved and appreciated for it bigly.

  • 10 Pharmgirl // Dec 22, 2017 at 8:25 pm

    Merry Christmas and may the very best of 2017 be the worst of 2018.

  • 11 Grammy // Dec 23, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

    Stay warm, make merry, and hug one another as often as possible.

    2018 HAS to be better than 2017 has been, because I’m really too old for this $#!T.

  • 12 Barbara R. Sullivan // Dec 27, 2017 at 7:39 am

    Thanks for the dose of even-keeled kindness at the holiday. I have been working all year on all of these same things. Happy 2018!

  • 13 Jen // Dec 27, 2017 at 10:32 pm

    I’ve come to the conclusion that vanishing eyebrows is an age/hormonal thing. Mine got to the point where I had sporadic and very few hairs. After trying to fill them in daily with makeup, I decided to get them tattoo’d on. Permanent makeup is AWESOME!! I loved my new eyebrows so much, that I also did the eyeliner.